The Kama Sutra
Chapter IV - On Things to be Done Only by the Man, and the Acquisition of the Girl Thereby.
Also What is to be Done by a Girl to Gain Over a Man and Subject Him to Her
Now when the girl begins to show her love by outward signs and motions, as described in the last chapter,
the lover should try to gain her over entirely by various ways and means, such as the following:
When engaged with her in any game or sport he should intentionally hold her hand.
He should practise upon her the various kinds of embraces, such as the touching embrace,
and others already described in a preceding chapter (Part II, Chapter II)....
He should describe to her the pangs he suffers on her account.
He should relate to her the beautiful dream that he has had with reference to other women.
At parties and assemblies of his caste he should sit near her, and touch her under some pretence or other,
and having placed his foot upon hers, he should slowly touch each of her toes, and press the ends of the nails;
if successful in this, he should get hold of her foot with his hand and repeat the same thing.
He should also press a finger of her hand between his toes when she happens to be washing his feet;
and whenever he gives anything to her or takes anything from her, he should show her by his manner
and look how much he loves her.
....when alone with her in a lonely place, or in darkness, he should make love to her,
and tell her the true state of his mind without distressing her in any way.
Whenever he sits with her on the same seat or bed he should say to her, 'I have something to tell you in private',
and then, when she comes to hear it in a quiet place, he should express his love to her more by manner and signs
than by words....After this, when she begins coming to see him frequently,
he should carry on long conversations with her, for, says Ghotakamukha,
'though a man loves a girl ever so much, he never succeeds in winning her without a great deal of talking'.
When a girl...should wish to bring about her own marriage when she comes of age,
such a girl should endeavour to gain over a strong and good looking young man....
She should do this by such means as would endear her to the said person,
as well as by frequently seeing and meeting him....
The girl herself should try to get alone with her beloved in some quiet place,
and at odd times should give him [gifts].
She should also show her skill in the practice of the arts, [etc.].
She should also talk to him on the subjects he likes best,
and discuss with him the ways and means of gaining over and winning the affections of a girl.
But old authors say that although the girl loves the man ever so much,
she should not offer herself, or make the first overtures, for a girl who does this loses her dignity,
and is liable to be scorned and rejected. But when the man shows his wish to enjoy her,
she should be favourable to him and should show no change in her demeanour when he embraces her,
and should receive all the manifestations of his love as if she were ignorant of the state of his mind.
But when he tries to kiss her she should oppose him; when he begs to be allowed to have sexual intercourse with her
she should let him touch her private parts only and with considerable difficulty; and though importuned by him,
she should not yield herself up to him as if of her own accord, but should resist his attempts to have her.
It is only, moreover, when she is certain that she is truly loved, and that her over is indeed devoted to her,
and will not change his mind, that she should then give herself up to him, and persuade him to marry her quickly....
Here end the efforts of a girl to gain over a man.