The Kama Sutra
Chapter III - On Courtship, and the Manifestation of the Feelings by Outward Signs and Deeds
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When a boy has thus begun to woo the girl he loves, he should spend his time with her and amuse her with various games
and diversions fitted for their age and acquaintanceship....In this way the man should do whatever the girl
takes most delight in, and he should get for her whatever she may have a desire to possess....Such things
should be given at different times whenever he gets a good opportunity of meeting her,
and some of them should be given in private, and some in public, according to circumstances.
In short, he should try in every way to make her look upon him as one who would do for her everything that she wanted
to be done.
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Now a girl always shows her love by outward signs and actions, such as the following:
She never looks the man in the face, and becomes abashed when she is looked at by him;
under some pretext or other she shows her limbs to him; she looks secretly at him though he has gone away from her side,
hangs down her head when she is asked some question by him, and answers in indistinct words and unfinished sentences,
delights to be in his company for a long time, speaks to her attendants in a peculiar tone with the hope of attracting
his attention towards her when she is at a distance from him, does not wish to go from the place where he is,
under some pretext or other she makes him look at different things, narrates to him tales and stories very slowly
so that she may continue conversing with him for a long time, kisses and embraces before him a child sitting in her lap,
draws ornamental marks on the foreheads of her female servants, performs sportive and graceful movements
when her attendants speak jestingly to her in the presence of her lover, confides in her lover's friends,
and respects and obeys them, shows kindness to his servants, converses with them, and engages them to do her work
as if she were their mistress, and listens attentively to them when they tell stories about her lover to somebody else,
enters his house when induced to do so by the daughter of her nurse, and by her assistance manages to converse and
play with him, avoids being seen by her lover when she is not dressed and decorated,
gives him by the hand of her female friend her ear ornament, ring, or garland of flowers that he may have asked to see,
always wears anything that he may have presented to her, becomes dejected when any other bridegroom is mentioned
by her parents, and does not mix with, those who may be of his party, or who may support his claims.
There are also some verses on the subject as follows:
'A man, who has seen and perceived the feelings of the girl towards him,
and who has noticed the outward signs and movements by which those feelings are expressed,
should do everything in his power to effect a union with her....'
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