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| Honoring the Body |
| Honoring the Body Author: Gary Joseph |
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SEX AS WORSHIP
These quotes and the lesson on Sacred Union make it clear that sacred sex evokes spiritual experiences that affirm its sanctity. Sacred sex does not simply label common sex 'sacred'. While every bodily act may be sacred in the highest sense of the word (see Myth of Evil), specific practices and results distinguish sacred sex as a special act of worship in your bodytemple. Sacred sex not only leads to Sacred Union, but also Sexual Enlightenment. The Lesson Forum gives simple methods for practice. Sacred sex commonly uses the term 'worship' to describe its honoring of sex and the body. However, other terms fit just as well and may appeal to you more. Many of these are the same as those used by religion: communion, baptism, rebirth, rapture, sacred marriage, sacrifice, and surrender. Here, a sacred sex text speaks also of offering:
It is easy to see the value sacred sex worship brings to your spiritual life. It fills you with passion and enthusiasm that ensures your continued and whole-hearted practice. Spiritual and religious leaders commonly exhort their followers to worship with fervor and zeal. We are to wholly give ourselves over to God. Yet how many can say that they truly feel passion for common worship? In contrast, we yearn for sacred sex worship in our own bodytemples, joyfully and ecstatically. We readily surrender ourselves to that all-consuming communion. That is the true spirit of worship. That is how sacred sex honors the body and its creative spirit. MORE WAYS TO WORSHIP Beyond sacred sex itself, honoring the body in special ways simply celebrates its natural sacred status. If you want to add this to your sacred sex practice, there are many ways to do so.By far the simplest, most common and natural, and most fun way is to simply appreciate each other's sacred human form in all its naked glory. You'll also find it stimulating and arousing. We're often in such a hurry to get on with sex that we forget one of its most simple pleasures -- the perfect beauty of our human form. The following poem, from the Greek Anthology, a collection of classical poems, eloquently describes how the simple act of appreciating your lover's nude body inspires and renews your love relationship:
You can also gaze upon your lover's face and/or nude body while practicing sacred sexercise as taught in Lesson 4. Be aware of thoughts, feelings, and sensations that come up, and either give thanks for them, offer them to your chosen spiritual ideal, honor them as sacred, or simply appreciate them. You can do this while joined in sexual union too. Some other ways to worship:
This is why your method of worship is not so important. Communion with Inner Spirit is what matters. Whatever method best helps you achieve Sacred Union, that is your ideal worship. AIM & SECRET
The Christian St. Teresa of Avila is one of the best examples of this in the West. In her diary, she describes her experience this way:
This ecstasy is a spiritual orgasm; it is the ecstasy of Sacred Union. The focus on this communion, not the veneration itself, leads to a most remarkable feature of sacred sex worship: the secret lies in letting go. Like sexual orgasm, spiritual orgasm is a letting go. This is easy to understand when we consider what Spirit is. Every spiritual ideal - whether God, Goddess, or simply ideal humanism - is universal. It transcends individuality. That's easy enough to see for God & Goddess, but it's true even for human ideals. If we honor human values like love, virtue, strength, beauty, sensuality, etc., and wish to bring them more into our lives, we do so by imbibing their universal essence. We tap into pure strength or love. By that, we become more loving, strong, or beautiful, etc. This merging into universality - whether a Deity or a human ideal - is the sign of successful worship. It comes by letting go of our individuality. We must let go of whatever particular form of worship we're engaged in. The way to do this is simple: worship in your chosen way for a period, then let go of the thought and intent. You will feel some level of release, relaxing, and settling in to universality. After a moment of that, worship again for a period, and again let go. Continue repeating this cycle of worship and letting go. Over time you'll see a deepening universality in your life. The length of the worship period between letting go depends on the worship you've chosen. If you're simply practicing sacred sex with a worshipful intent, do so for 30-60 seconds, then let go 10-15 seconds, and repeat. If you're recounting qualities of your lover, let go after each named quality. If you're performing some other repetitive worship, let go after each repetition. If you sink into a deep blissful state when you let go, stay there longer. If you need more active worship to stimulate your experience, worship longer. The above are just guides; find the routine that works best for you. Worship is a form of desire. We worship to fulfill our desire to unite with a chosen spiritual ideal. The Circle of Desire is a teaching that explains the wisdom behind worshipping and letting go. To learn more about it, see the lesson of Sacred Desire. For more on the specific practice of letting go, see the follow-up post just below it, here. TABOO WORSHIP The practice of letting go further explains why the type of worship doesn't matter. Whatever form you choose, success comes in letting go. All worship is identical in letting go. This is why sacred sex allows 'taboo' forms of worship that repressive traditions may condemn as sacrilege. The worshipper transcends the so-called purity or impurity of the worship. You sanctify your worship when you transcend it. No form of worship, no matter how 'pious', is truly sacred without letting go and merging with universality.In this day and age, such forms of worship are likely even more popular and powerful than the 'pious' ones, because our hearts and minds are so flooded with those images. If this resonates with you, worship your lover as a Sex Stud or Sex Queen, or whatever 'ideal' appeals to you. Just be sure to let go and sink into the ecstasy of it. Then come out and do it again. WORSHIP AT WILL While sacred sex worship opens new doors to ecstasy, you do not need it for sacred sex practice at any level. If you object to it on any grounds, it doesn't appeal to you, or you simply don't want, then don't do it. It is an optional practice that adds another dimension to sacred sex for those who choose to enjoy it.Even if you do wish to add it to your practice, you needn't expressly, explicitly, or overtly do things like worship your partner as divine. Most people find this uncomfortable and/or out of character, especially at first. Rather, sacred sex worship is a natural attitude that grows with experience over time. As you experience Sacred Union more and more, you come to see your partner as a catalyst for that, and your love and appreciation deepens. You begin to see their role in your own spiritual awakening, and you honor them for that. Even then, it may remain a silent, unspoken reverence in your heart -- where it counts. When you feel inspired, openly express and share it with your partner. Like everything in sacred sex, honoring the body - and the sex act - expresses the true nature of life, and evolves in a natural way. Enjoying it brings natural honor to life. Copyright 2007, Society for Sacred Sexuality - all rights reserved. ============ Endnotes for quotes: Robert Bates, Sacred Sex (Hammersmith: HarperCollins Publishers, 1993) | |||||||||
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